I am currently in the process of becoming a gestational surrogate. This decision has been in the making for over two years, but the actual process didn't really begin until August when I was matched with my wonderful intended parents. I have never faltered in my decision in the least. I know that this process will be fulfilling in so many ways. I will get to help bring a new life into this world and deliver that life to the family to which it belongs. I can't imagine how difficult the decision would be to allow a woman you have never met to carry your child. I am so honored that my intended parents have chosen me to be a part of their journey.
I am very lucky to have the support of my husband in this venture. He probably mostly supports it because I am not a super annoying pregnant lady. My girls understand and are supportive as well. Faith was the first to acknowledge that it was a nice thing to do for someone else. That said, I should mention also that my husband and I had long ago agreed that we are so done having more of our own children. I love my girls, but I feel that I could never be the best mom possible if we had more children. We are so blessed with our three beautiful girls, there is absolutely no reason we would want to mess with a working system.
I also have the somewhat begrudging support of my mom, who has worry for obvious reasons. She has always been my rock, and I can count on her to give me straight and logical answers no matter what the question.
Lets get down to the basics.
Gestational Surrogacy means that I carry a baby to term that is in NO way genetically linked to me. This particular baby will be genetically linked to one of the intended parents. If all goes well, (a very well orchestrated undertaking that requires a lot of my blood to be drawn and tested) we will begin the first, and hopefully only, transfer in mid december. The transfer is where the already fertilized egg is placed in my uterus. Hopefully it will stick, and nine months later there will be a lovely new addition to Family A.
You may notice that I am going to be slightly vague when I mention the intended parents (IPs or Family A). They are aware of this blog, but it is not my place to share their story. I will refrain from giving any specific information on them. Just know that they have tried and tried and struggled for a very long time before deciding to pursue surrogacy.
Where I stand right now:
Family A and I have all completed testing and are FDA approved to proceed. In the process I did find that my thyroid is underactive, so I am on medication for that and being monitored regularly. There are a lot of medications involved in the preparation to be a surrogate. So far I have been on active birth control for almost 9 weeks, and tonight I get to begin my first injections of lupron. That, prenatal vitamins, and baby aspirin are all I am taking for the next ten days. I will have another appointment on the 25th to monitor and determine when I should start progesterone. I will probably discuss the medications in more detail as I come to them.
The most challenging aspects of this journey so far have been breaking myself of a caffeine habit and the waiting. I am very much an instant gratification kind of person. I hate waiting for things beyond my control. For that reason, waiting for each step to be reached and "okayed" has been horrid. On that note, I am glad for the wait as well. It helps me feel more and more secure in my decision.
I am so excited to begin this journey, and I hope you can share in our excitement by checking back to my blog, where I will update on changes- good, bad, ugly, and beautiful. I want to be as honest as possible, with TMI warnings where required.
Now- off to give myself a shot. :)